I don't have guidelines on how to talk to people because 97% of the time, conversations hold minimal purpose where in reality, the purpose of communication as the nature has created and derived it upon is that to exchange information from one being to another. If you just happen to be of no relevant use to my informational collective need, then there is no need for us to converse, thus, abiding to the rule of 'purposeful' conversation. The stereotypical stance of which women position themselves on such fallacies of being able to parse information between one another about complete follies of ridiculing information that beg pardon to those who don it of 'utmost' importance - that 'celebrity diets' and 'the love life of this celebrity' is some how a better conversation holder than actual information relevant and that has the ability to affect those who hear it - where, as opposed to talking how 'so and so was wearing something they presume to be 'original' but isn't' you could be talking about logical things, such as the actions and repercussions of anothers actions and thus your opinion will be guided by the clouded mind of another. I'm being sarcastic.
In short, conversation is near useless in the purpose of being. People are holders of information, and the ability to communicate is the ability to distribute information. Excessive information is not required and should be avoided because obviously, over thinking is something to be avoided.